– Do you know the rules on private parts? – Yeah, don’t look at vaginas
and don’t look at penises. – Yeah, so you’re not supposed to look at anybody else’s and you don’t let anyone look at yours, right? – ‘Kay.
(relaxing music) – I’m Nicole, I’m Mom. – Hi, I’m Nolan. – I’m Eliana. – And I am Eliana’s mother. – Not really. (laughing) – What do you know about
the #MeToo movement? – It has to do with sexual abuse? – Uh huh, well, that’s what
we’re here to talk about, the #MeToo movement. (laughing) – Are you familiar with
the #MeToo movement? – No. – Simplest first way to explain it, is it’s a lot of people that came together to talk about a really serious thing and it’s called sexual assault. Do you know what that is? – No.
– No? – It’s a movement that came about to help women express what has happened to
them and not keep quiet. – ‘Kay, do you know the
rules on private parts? – Yeah. Don’t look at vaginas and
don’t look at penises. – Yeah. Sexual assault is where
people do inappropriate things to other people, including
things with the private parts we just talked about, and
a lot of people are scared to talk about when those bad
things happen to them, ‘kay? – ‘Kay. – ‘Kay, but it happens to a lot of people and that’s why we’re
here to talk about it. Are you okay? – I’m kind of scared. – It’s okay. Do you want a hug? – Yeah.
– Yeah. I told you it was gonna be an adult thing, but I think it’s
important for you to know. (sighs) – because these things
can happen to kids too. – When I think about being in high school, it was expected of girls,
or we supported one another in being tough with boys, maybe if they touched your
butt or they talked nasty or humped the air or something like that. – There’s definitely still that. – There’s definitely still that? – If one of my friends is sitting there and watching that happen to someone else, I just find it very rare
that they would say anything. – Hugging is harmless in most cases, but– – Yeah, but when someone
doesn’t like the person that they’re hugging, they
may try to squeeze them really hard and hurt them. – Yeah, so we just need to
establish the no means no rule. – Have you ever come across that? Yeah? How did you feel about that? – Not comfortable. – But what did you do? – Told the vice principal. – I think it’s easier to
go around saying that, Oh, boys have more power than us and let’s do something about it, but in reality, they’re too afraid to actually assert their own
girl power when it’s happening, ’cause they are afraid of
the boy overruling them, or someone talking about
them behind their back about how they said something to this guy after they speak up for
one of their friends. – Or maybe accuse them
of making a big deal out of nothing or something? – Yeah, and then the girl’s
gonna feel embarrassed and she’s not gonna wanna
say anything ever again. – It happens to a lot of men
and women, boys and girls, it happened to me when I was younger. I didn’t even tell Daddy
until two years ago. – He told me and my friend when we were in orchestra, he said that he’ll… (sniffles) (lips smacking) – It’s okay. – One time I went out with a
guy that I didn’t know well. We ended up at one of his friend’s houses and I remember I was
feeling so uncomfortable, there’s no way I would have
taken a drink or anything, but suddenly I remember
sitting on the couch and I was really uncomfortable. The next thing I know, I woke up, and I was leaning on this guy’s shoulder and he was sleep and I was sleep, and his friend was like,
reaching up my shorts and doing all this stuff and I started punching
this guy that I was with, and saying get off me to this one. In my head, the whole time was my mom’s, grandma’s, instructions
of don’t ever be alone with guys ’cause guys
they’ll gang up on you. In that moment, I wasn’t feeling powerful. So, then dually, it’s
another hard story to tell because I just don’t find
myself telling stories of when I didn’t feel
powerful or didn’t feel smart. (sniffing) – I’m very proud of you. You know that? Because it’s okay to
talk about these things, and that is the right thing to do, is tell somebody right away. You have to learn how to always speak up, and don’t let anybody ever
take advantage of you. I am beyond proud of you. This is never okay and
it’s never your fault. – Later on I learned
that this group of guys that I was around ended up in prison because they were putting
drops in girls’ drinks and raping them once they,
it’s called a roofie. – I just think that’s real interesting ’cause I’ve always seen you as this, guarded, let’s be smart
about what we’re doing. – Yeah. (sobbing) – Does that make you upset? – Yeah, because I feel
like whenever you tell me that I need to be safe
and guarded and everything that you’re just (sighs) saying that ’cause, I don’t know, ’cause you want to be
annoying or something. I guess that’s just ’cause
of your personal experience, and I didn’t know that. I’ve always just been like, Oh, it’s doesn’t matter, it
doesn’t matter, but it does. – I just have a question about one thing. – Okay. – I would, like telling
people that you were a victim. – Telling people that you were a victim? – Yeah, like what if you don’t want to? – Well, a lot of people don’t want to. Just like I told you when I was a kid I got sexually assaulted by a boy and I didn’t wanna tell anybody ’cause I was scared and embarrassed. But I wish I would have told
someone when it happened. You wanna know why? – Why? – Because now that boy that
did that awful thing to me, I don’t know where he is. I don’t know if he has
done it to other people. – People who commit these
acts of sexual harassment, or abuse or rape should
be tried in a court. I don’t think that the
problem will ever go away, but women need to know that they’re being empowered, supported, backed-up, and #MeToo sheds light to that. So we have to fight back. Even if you don’t physically fight back, you have to fight back by talking to somebody,
and telling somebody. – If you went through sexual harassment, or violence, or assault, do you
feel like you would tell me? – Yeah. – For sure? – For sure.
– Yay. Good, ’cause I wouldn’t be
angry and I wouldn’t blame you, – I know you would not.
– or think that you were in a stupid situation,
or anything like that. – Yeah. – Yeah. Good I’m glad you would. – So, I think the most important
thing out of all of this, is, if anybody ever touches you, or if you see anyone do that to someone, – ‘Kay. – What are you gonna do? – Go tell an adult right away. – Good job. You don’t have to be afraid to tell, ‘kay? No matter what.
– ‘Kay. – No matter who does it. – ‘Kay.
– Okay. – ‘Kay.
– You feel good? – Yeah.
– Yeah? – Yeah. – Okay.
– Yeah. (laughing) – Love ya. – Love you Mama. (lips smacking) (relaxing music)